Two Face

I'll be honest. I'm writing this to get it off my chest. Sorry if it doesn't make sense, it makes me feel better to get it out.

What gives anyone the right to judge anyone else? It's not an easy question to answer. I find myself judging people when I am no better, I complain about things I shouldn't. I know this is wrong and I'm trying to work on it. But the one thing I know is it's wrong to be two faced.

Anyone who knows me knows that I have strong opinions and, for better or worse, I share them. Obviously, I hold back some things, but there is no way I will pretend to like people. There is nothing worse than a coward who lies about being mates. This is where it gets a bit personal. Long story short, a guy who I thought was a mate has been mouthing off about me to other people. He criticised my career,  my hobbies, my goals in life. Basically he went all out. My only problem is what to do now. He's been avoiding me for days and I only found out about this today. I only see one way forward. Call him out on it. Either there's a good reason (unlikely) or he hates me. It's better for everyone if he mans up and admits it. He's no model human himself, but I like to know where I stand. The only problem is finding him in the first place. How do you find someone who's trying to hide?